We are not cheated we are gifted

People ask me all the time how are you doing? What I cover up my response with is, "Oh we're doing ok and Caitlyn is feeling good." Because there are no words to explain how you are doing when you know that your child is dying. It is only a short matter of time until all the treatments they have out there will no longer have any effect on her. It is hard for us to wrap our minds around all this when she appears relatively fine. I do see some things personality wise about her have started to change. But to answer the other question we get a lot. I don't know how you carry on? Well we follow her lead she is happy and just wants to have fun so we try and do the same thing. She is here with us now we have to enjoy her. There is no time for sorrow and only private crying. We will have eternity to grieve but a only short time to embrace the now.

This weekend the kids are at my parents house 45 min away in Wisconsin and it is taking all of my energy to not go up their and bring them back home. I miss them so much. But I know other people need to be with her as much as we do. I feel I have grown so much in these past 9 months and have learned to look at things differently. When Caitlyn was diagnosed I was devastated with the thought of losing her and I was feeling cheated. I would not get the chance to experience what I have been looking forward to since she was born, the things that I Cherish the most with my mother and that is a life full of all the wonderful mother daughter experiences. I now know there is more to life then that and that is just not in the cards for everyone. God sent Caitlyn here to touch the hearts of others, make them see a different side of themselves, to make people reevaluate what is important in life. And hopefully with her trial experiences to help the doctors get closer to a cure. That is what I have to remember she was sent here for. To remind myself that God has chosen her as a special Angel to touch others makes my heart feel less heavy and not cheated but rather gifted.

It feels therapeutic to put my thoughts down and know that people care. Please pray for all the angels here on earth that were sent to touch others life's. They have such an important job but it comes at a great cost for the family's who have to let them go to heaven.

Kara